Bitterness can have many causes, but I believe that there are three root causes, based upon these Scripture references, (2Kings 2:19-22, Exodus 15:22-25 & James 3:9-14)
CIRCUMSTANCES
In 2Kings 2:19-22 (“And the men of the city said unto Elisha, Behold, I pray thee, the situation of this city is pleasant, as my lord seeth: but the water is nought (bitter), and the ground barren.(20)And he said, Bring me a new cruse, and put salt therein. And they brought it to him.(21)And he went forth unto the spring of the waters, and cast the salt in there, and said, Thus saith the LORD, I have healed these waters; there shall not be from thence any more death or barren land.(22)So the waters were healed unto this day, according to the saying of Elisha which he spake.”)we discover that bitterness was brought about by CIRCUMSTANCES beyond the control of those who were its victims. Remember it is the circumstances that we cannot control, not the bitterness produced by these circumstances. We do not choose our circumstances, but we choose to be bitter! The water was plentiful, but not potable. In America we truly live in a land of plenty. On the outside our cities are often beautiful, and to the casual observer all looks well, while in the heart of that lovely city there is often crime, corruption, greed, and murder. We drive through a well-kept neighborhood, past freshly painted homes, with manicured lawns, multicolored flowerbeds, lush shrubs, towering trees, and we fail to observe that in those peaceful looking homes may reside, anger, adultery, incest, neglect, and abuse.
We see a handsome gentleman, or lovely lady walk by, and often are prone to envy. I dare say that in many incidences we would be repulsed rather than attracted if we could see what God sees..... the heart, the mind, the emotions, the soul, the sin etc., the real person inside that attractive house of clay.
The water is plentiful, but it is bitter because some alien component is affecting not only its taste, but is warping its mission. Water meant life, to these people, and is often called "living water", in Scripture, because of its intrinsic attachment to life. In the Middle East, and at this time, they knew how vital "good" water was to life. In fact, even in America, fierce battles have been waged over water. Without water there is no life, and without the “living water” of Jesus there is no eternal life.
What are the circumstances that have turned your water bitter? Is it that God has not treated you fairly? Has He given someone else more than you? Has God made someone richer than you, someone who certainly didn't work as hard as you, and thereby doesn't deserve even as much as you? Has God made someone more attractive than you, more talented than you? Does your neighbor live in a bigger home, drive a newer car, and have a better job? Maybe God just doesn’t know how really deserving you are. What has turned your water bitter? Have other people treated you unfairly? Did your boss give the raise, or promotion, to another person who is not nearly so talented, or hard working? Was everyone invited to the party, but you? Did everyone else receive recognition for his or her efforts, while you were ignored? There is a great deal of rejection in life, and this rejection can be broken down into two primary areas …… covert and overt ….. listed below are some of the things that cause these two types of rejection to occur in our lives.
Overt rejection.
• Direct statements of rejection made by others.
• A refusal by others to show open affection.
• Actual verbal or physical abuse.
• Desertion by a parent, a child, a spouse, or a loved one.
• Divorce by your parents, or in your own marriage.
• Peer pressure due to some physical, or mental, or emotional problems in your life.
Covert rejection.
• Unusually harsh, or strict discipline.
• Unusually lax, or erratic discipline.
• The death of a parent, child, spouse, or loved one.
• Over protection by parents, or spouse.
• Conditionally given love.
• Self-rejection due to misunderstanding God’s purpose for your life.
These areas of rejection in our life, when not properly dealt with, can create a great deal of bitterness, and can cause our life, and ministry to be barren. Since rejection is such a vital ingredient in the development of our bitterness, I would like to list some clues to discovering areas of rejection. This rejection may have produced bitterness in your life. Consider the following Scripture verses to help deal with this rejection, before it turns into bitterness.
A distrust of God and His plan for our lives -
Psalms 139:14
Wishful comparison to others - 2Corinthians 12:12-18
Self-contempt, and excessive self-criticism –
Ephesians 5:29
Attitudes of superiority - 1Corinthians 4:6,7
Excessive shyness, or feelings of inferiority -
Philippians 4:13
Attempts at total perfection - Philippians 3:12-14
Unnatural attempts to hide unchangeable defects in the way God created us - 2Corinthians 12:9,10
Extravagant dress, or mannerisms - Matthew 6:27,28
Difficulty in loving, and trusting others -
Matthew 19:19
Unbiblical priorities, and goals in life - Matthew 6:33
Signs of victory are everywhere, but the results in your life are still negative. The trees had blossomed, the fruit appeared, only to fall to the ground unripe, and then lay there to rot. The cattle had conceived, only to miscarry, and abort their young before there was any possibility of sustaining life. The women had conceived, but in the midst of celebrating the joy of this new life coming into the world, spontaneous abortion occurred, taking the life of the child, and the joy of the parents in one fell swoop.
Yes, CIRCUMSTANCES, over which we have little or no control, can, turn our water bitter and poisonous, but there are other sources of bitterness, as well.